After all, here's a guide with specific things you can do to when your girlfriend is upset No more vague instructions about telling her you love her- these are clear and always work. Whether she is sick, sad or scared, following these steps are sure to make her feel better. These are cute, foolproof ways to cheer her up and make you her hero.
1.Hug her. Hugging works for any person, in any situation. Find a private place where she can calm down and pull her against you, but don’t smother her. Be firm but gentle- soft rocking or back patting is fine if you’ve been together a while. The point of hugging is to make her feel safe and protected.
2.Distract her. Speak in a low, soft voice and turn her attention away from whatever is upsetting her. Getting her to talk to you is good, but a conversation is sometimes impossible, particularly if she is crying. Even if she doesn’t respond, you can keep murmuring reassurances in her ear.
3.Ask her what’s wrong. If she doesn’t want to tell you, don’t pressure her. But having an idea of what’s upsetting her can help you relieve her fear, sadness, etc.
4.Light touching works wonders. Even if you’re just a friend, these physical touches are so small they won’t seem overly affectionate. If you’re holding hands, use your thumb to rub small circles on the back of her hand. Running you thumb over her knuckles has the same effect. Placing one hand on the small of her back goes along with the first step, and you can gently hold her against you this way. Also try stroking her hair.
5.Have patience. If your girlfriend is openly sobbing, it may take her a while to cry herself out. Continue these steps as long as necessary, until she’s calmed down. She will love you for it.
